I have the right:
- To always be treated with respect – In a respectful relationship, you should be treated as an equal.
- To be in a healthy relationship – A healthy relationship is not controlling, manipulative, or jealous. A healthy relationship involves honesty, trust, and communication.
- To not be hurt physically or emotionally – You should feel safe in your relationship at all times.
- Abuse is never deserved and is never your fault – Conflicts should be resolved in a peaceful and rational way.
- To refuse sex or affection at anytime – A healthy relationship involves making consensual sexual decisions.
- You have the right to not have sex – Even if you have had sex before, you have the right to refuse sex for any reason.
- To have friends and activities apart from my boyfriend or girlfriend – Spending time by yourself, with male or female friends, or with family is normal and healthy.
- To end a relationship – You should not be harassed, threatened, or made to feel guilty for ending an unhealthy or healthy relationship. You have the right to end a relationship for any reason you choose.
I pledge to:
- Always treat my boyfriend or girlfriend with respect.
- Never hurt my boyfriend or girlfriend physically, verbally, or emotionally.
- Respect my girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s decisions concerning sex and affection.
- Not be controlling or manipulative in my relationship.
- Accept responsibility for myself and my actions.
If your relationship is missing some of the bullets on the teen dating bill of rights you might need to rethink your relationship. If you have any thoughts you are in an abusive relationship, get out. There is nothing more important than your safety. You can call the helpline whenever you would like and it is completely anonymous. You could find a friend, parent, clergy, or police to help you remedy the situation. It is not right. They will all be there to support you. I found trust in all of these people. It was important for me to know they all had my best interest in heart and wanted me to be in a safe situation.
(The Teen Dating Bill of Rights can be found on the Love is Respect Website (http://www.loveisrespect.org/resource-center/teen-dating-bill-of-rights/)
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